Rebecca's Story

Rebecca's Story

EQUIP has asked Side B gay Christian friends and family members to share their stories. Check out this story from Rebecca (name changed):

“I think maybe we should wait a while before you start leading in our Sunday School.” Even though I had braced for these words, I couldn’t stop the sinking feeling in my stomach and the prick of tears in my eyes. “I have a few questions for you,” continued Helen (name changed), the young adults minister at my church. Why? Because I am bisexual.

Help your Church Respond Compassionately

Help your Church Respond Compassionately

EQUIP has designed and tested a program, called Coming Out & Gay Pride: A Compassionate Christian Response, that invites Christians to think deeply and have healthy conversation about these topics. Better yet, this year your church can host Coming Out & Gay Pride at so that your members can learn how to respond compassionately to gay pride and coming out.

The Gay Teen Test

The Gay Teen Test

What’s our vision for churches? That they would pass EQUIP’s Gay Teen Test. Our Gay Teen Test asks whether what gay teens in your church hear and see sets them up to fail or flourish. Does a mix of silence and hypocrisy in your church lead teens to reject a traditional sexual ethic and, often, God altogether because of their confusion, shame, fear, loneliness, and hopelessness? Or does your church courageously lead compassionate conversations about God’s love and plan for all people, setting up gay teens to embrace the beauty and the burden of the gospel?

Pastors, Please Don't Look Away

Pastors, Please Don't Look Away

Will is a 17-year-old gay Christian, and Frank is a 60-year-old gay Christian. I’m not using their real names, but their stories are very real. Separately, the two emailed me back and forth over a weekend, and by the fourth email, I couldn't help feeling some deja vu. At times, it felt like I was talking to the same person, just 43 years apart. They both struggle mightily to obey Christ’s teachings and find joy as gay Christians, and neither of them feel like their church has anything meaningful to offer them.

Sexual Ethics & Empty Words

Sexual Ethics & Empty Words

EQUIP uses language popularized by the Gay Christian Network. “Side A”, “Side B”, and “Side X” shorthand is an attempt at value-neutral language that challenges unhelpful dichotomy. But what do each of these labels mean? And what does it look like for a church to embody each of these beliefs?

Is Singleness Good?

Is Singleness Good?

Theoretically? Yes. Practically? No. Our churches don’t teach the rich theology of lifetime singleness in Scripture and there is little support for celibate Christians, leading to painful results for the Church.

Boy Erased Review: Church, Repent

Boy Erased Review: Church, Repent

Boy Erased highlights a theologically and psychologically destructive school of thought. The practice of gay conversion therapy has led millions of LGBT+ Christians to lose their faith and commit suicide. And these ideas and practices continue today, albeit in more subtle ways. The Church must repent of what we have done, and we must make sure it never happens again.

For you. For them. For EVERYONE.

For you. For them. For EVERYONE.

Pastors, potential donors, and friends often ask us, “I know you focus on equipping churches, but whom do you hope will benefit from the work? Non-Christian LGBT+ people? Gay Christians? Future generations?” Our answer: “All of them…but it’s complicated.”

Becoming the Church for Sexual Minorities

Becoming the Church for Sexual Minorities

So what should the Church become? And how do we do this? This next series of posts will explore how we must think differently and how we must love differently so that we can become the Church where sexual minorities belong.