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Should Christian Parents Cancel JoJo?

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JoJo Siwa is a 17-year-old children’s entertainer with over 12 million YouTube subscribers, most of whom are elementary school-aged children. Many Christian parents bought their daughters JoJo’s oversized bows, allowed their kids to watch JoJo’s upbeat videos, and even took their children to JoJo’s concerts. And with good reason: JoJo Siwa is one of the few entertainers who exemplifies good morals. She’s positive and kind, she dresses and dances modestly, her songs discourage bullying, and she hasn’t been part of any controversy.

Then, in an Instagram post, JoJo came out as gay.

News of JoJo’s sexual orientation and that she has a girlfriend has left some Christian parents wondering how to best respond.

Should we cancel (see a definition of “canceling” at the end of the post) JoJo, remove any presence of her merchandise from our homes, and ban our children from ever enjoying her music again?

Should we assume our kids are too young to understand what JoJo means when she says “love is love”?

Should we try to explain to our kids what’s going on?

Should we let them enjoy JoJo’s fabulous costumes and catchy songs without worrying too much about her personal life?

Easy solutions that cause long term damage

The easiest solution may be to completely remove JoJo’s presence from our children’s lives while explaining that we can no longer support JoJo because she has revealed that she’s gay and has a girlfriend. I understand the concerns. We don’t want our children to pick up cultural messages that would lead them toward a progressive sexual ethic.

It’s true that much of what JoJo says is problematic. Personal happiness, which JoJo says comes from her work, her fans, and her personal life, seems to be the driving force in her life. Her advice to her fans is this: “Do whatever it is that makes you happy” (Instagram post, January 23). Many of her videos seem to communicate that happiness can be found in shopping sprees and meeting celebrities. Clearly, those aren’t the values we want to pass on to our kids.

But are we addressing all of the ways JoJo’s advice and values contradict Scripture, or are we only concerned now that JoJo has shared that she is gay and has a girlfriend? If we’re willing to cancel JoJo for these, but we’re unwilling to cancel her when she gave her fans advice that clearly contradicts Scripture, are we just being homophobic?

While our hearts may be in the right place, what do our kids learn when we withdraw our support for JoJo because she’s gay and has a girlfriend? While we probably hope to communicate to our kids that God’s best plan for relationships doesn’t include same-sex romance, I don’t think our kids hear that. They aren’t hearing the love God has for all people, regardless of their attractions. They aren’t hearing that God has set a high bar for sexual stewardship for all people, regardless of their orientation. Rather, they’re hearing the following:

  • We should fear gay people (We’ll pray for “those people.”)

  • Being gay is bad (I’m not allowed to watch JoJo’s videos any more, she must have done something wrong, she must be bad.)

  • Same-sex attractions should be kept a secret (if JoJo had never come out, I would still be allowed to like her; if I ever experience attraction to the same sex I probably won’t be welcome in my home so I shouldn’t tell anyone).

  • Gay people are subject to rules straight people aren’t (Before JoJo shared about her attractions – when everyone assumed she was opposite-sex attracted – she was living her life in some ways that weren’t God-honoring, but my parents weren’t concerned; God must have extra rules for gay people.)

Lead your kids in conversation instead of canceling in fear

Parents, I urge you to use this cultural moment to teach your kids about God’s wisdom regarding sexual stewardship and His love for gay people, instead of canceling. Since our identity as Christians is firmly rooted in Christ, JoJo Siwa’s attractions and relationship are not a threat to us or to God’s design for relationships. We don’t have to fear opportunities like these to teach our kids.

And while it is right to talk to our children about the appropriate place celebrities like JoJo should have in our lives, we don’t have to condemn gay people in order to teach our kids about God-honoring sexual stewardship. They’ll see those truths in other areas as we teach in compassionate and theologically accurate ways about singleness and marriage and about what those are and how God designed them to function.

You could say something like this: “God loves gay people and has good plans for them. God loves JoJo and has good plans for her. God’s design for relationships and sex is the same for all people, regardless of who they’re attracted to. Let’s pray together that JoJo will choose to follow God’s wisdom for sexual stewardship. And I want you to know that if you ever feel like JoJo, if you ever notice that you’re attracted to other girls, it’s safe to tell me and I’ll do everything I can to help you thrive in God’s good plan for your life.”

Choose consistency over homophobia

Please be consistent.

If we don’t allow our kids to watch JoJo Siwa videos anymore because she has a girlfriend, we also need to bar our children from viewing any other actor/musician/celebrity/character/tv show/movie that uses romance or sex outside of God’s best. This includes sex outside of marriage, cheating on a spouse, divorce and remarriage, using pornography, casual dating with intimacy of a more sexual nature, or having children outside of wedlock. Are we willing to do that?

Inconsistency doesn’t protect our children. Instead, it teaches them to discriminate. And when that inconsistency is applied only to gay people, it teaches our kids homophobia. Our actions communicate to our children, “It’s okay when straight people ignore God’s wisdom. But if a gay person isn’t following the rules, we must punish them.”

If parents feel they must cancel entertainers to be serious about protecting their kids from the influences of our sex-obsessed culture, we should cancel everyone whose sexual stewardship isn’t God-honoring. But if we’re not willing to do that, we must admit that our reaction to JoJo is about more than just protecting.

Cancel culture won’t protect our children

Even if we managed to successfully protect our children from watching any videos or public figures that fall short of this high standard, we would still fail to block them from exposure to sexual brokenness in the rest of their lives. Reminders are everywhere that this world is not as it should be. Even if we narrow our focus just to gay people, there are many places our elementary-aged children could come into contact with a gay person not following God’s wisdom. Do we refuse to allow our kids to interact with their second-grade teacher who has a picture of his same-sex spouse on his desk? Do we quit the sports team when a teammate’s two moms show up to cheer him on? Do we stop taking our child to library story time because the children’s librarian wears a Pride flag pin on her lanyard?


We teach them that the way Jesus calls us to live will often be different from what others choose to do. We teach our children about God-honoring sexual stewardship while also teaching them to love and honor those who don’t uphold the same sexual ethic. And while we’re at it, we invite that gay person/couple into our home. It could be the first positive experience they have with Christians, probably after many negative interactions, and your home could be the only place they encounter the love Jesus has for all people.

Parents, my intent isn’t to shame you. If you’re having second thoughts about how you handled JoJo’s coming out, it’s not too late to have another conversation with your child! You can model owning up to the fact that you weren’t sure what to do, and admit that you reacted poorly. Praise the Lord for opportunities to courageously model Christ’s love and humility to our children! You can check out Equip’s free Parent Conversation Starters for tips on how to start age-appropriate dialogue about sexuality with your kids.

Learn more about leading your kids in conversations about God-honoring sexual stewardship with Equip’s on-demand Parent Course. Click here to watch a free preview and get access to start conversation with your kids today.

*Cancel culture “refers to the practice of withdrawing support for (cancelling) public figures/companies/brands after they have said or done something considered objectionable or offensive” ( While church discipline is helpful when a Christian inside the Church is continuing in unrepentant sin, cancel culture typically targets cultural messages from public figures/companies/brands with the intent to shame and/or completely disengage. When we choose to cancel, the losses end up being greater than the gain.

    9:18 PM, 16 February 2021

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    11:26 AM, 25 June 2021

    Whoever wrote this is not a Christian. Being gay is not Gods plan. If you had kids watching Jo jo siwa before she said she was gay it’s really not ok that they still watch her. They don’t need a lot of explanation at a young age. Just that she is not appropriate to be watching anymore. ( who knows what she’ll be doing or talking about now). We have to protect our children as they are all being targeted now to think lgbtq is normal and ok. The Bible says the opposite. It is a sin. Just like adultary, murder, stealing. We all are sinners. No one is without sin. But being gay is a choice. Just as someone chooses to rape or kill. They may have these feelings and thoughts that they want to do this but it is wrong. Everyone has a God given conscience. You know right from wrong. Gay people know their lifestyle is wrong. That’s why they are fighting so hard to normalize it and have everyone think it’s ok. Read 1 Corinthians 6:9. There are also many other verses in the Bible about homosexuality. Just the way the human body is made tells you same sex relationships are not normal. Gods will is for all to be saved and go to heaven. Repent and trust In Jesus. Don’t let them indoctrinate your kids into thinking this is normal. It’s not and they know it.

    • Amber Carroll
      6:49 PM, 7 February 2022

      Hi, Toutes, thanks for your comments. I would encourage you to read a couple of our other blog posts that explain what we believe about same-sex attraction. This one would be a good starting place:

      I agree that we need to protect our kids. That’s why I wrote a 10-hour Parent Course, to help parents teach their kids about God’s good design for Christian sexual stewardship. Because following God’s plans helps us avoid so much pain and heartache and sin in our lives.

      7:53 AM, 9 February 2022

      If gay people “know” that they are wrong because they have to defend their sexuality, then why are you not “wrong” for having to defend your beliefs?

    David Banner
    12:05 AM, 14 December 2021

    I wouldn’t let my kids watch her. There is way too much homosexuality forced on our children in tv and movies. It’s all part of satans plan to make it seem normal and ok. It’s not ok, it’s a mental sickness. These people pretend to be happy but in reality they are miserable and it shows. May God have mercy on their souls, satan won’t..

    • Amber Carroll
      6:39 PM, 7 February 2022

      Hi, David. I agree that parents should be very careful about what their children are exposed to through media. There are many things in movies, songs, and tv shows that kids shouldn’t hear or see. But we do live in a culture that makes it almost impossible to completely shelter our kids from every mention or sex or sexuality. It’s better to prepare our kids by teaching them the truths of God’s Word about how He expects Christians to steward our sexuality and how He expects Christians to love and minister to those who don’t believe like we do. The reality is that some of our kids, whether they watch JoJo or not, will one day experience same-sex attraction. We want them to know that God still loves them, that His design for Christian sexual stewardship is good, and that they will find the most joy in life when they follow His plan.

      7:50 AM, 9 February 2022

      You’ve said that homosexuality is a mental illness—so god is sending people to hell for being mentally ill? Mental illness is a physiological brain condition. If I follow your logic correctly this would include other mental illnesses, such as schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety—people who are mentally incapable of fully purging their mental illness from themselves are unable to be saved.

    5:06 AM, 7 February 2022

    JoJo “came out” when she did because she was about to get into trouble over that game her name was attached to. Pure distraction.

    • Amber Carroll
      6:51 PM, 7 February 2022

      I’m not sure what prompted JoJo to come out when she did. Perhaps you’re right. Regardless, I don’t think JoJo’s is lying about experiencing same-sex attraction, and it’s still a good idea seek consistency in what we allow our kids to watch/hear/read.

    8:48 AM, 29 June 2022

    The bible encourages us to have discernment while not judging others, but we must judge in order to make correct decisions. The bible is a guide for us and our children and clearly states be careful with whom you socialize with for you will become like them. That requires discernment and decision making; we are also taught to love one another but to admonish those who are not following God’s laws and who are sinning. We dont have to condone behaviors that are not moral or according to God’s plan for us.
    I think Jo Jo coming out was a test, and it was awful that she gathered a following and then forced this on everyone knowing full well she was bisexual. I think that is dishonest.

    8:56 AM, 29 June 2022

    I think its ok to say, we found out that this person is not a good role model for what God wants in our lives so we will not be watching her anymore. We have to teach our children to think and discern what is right for them and that what God wants what is best for us in our lives. Many people will be immoral or amoral in our culture, we want to teach our kids how to recognize and know THAT, so they can make Godly choices for relationships that are healthy for them mentally, emotionally and spiritually. This is a chance to model that for them.

    Mia Buch
    3:32 PM, 23 July 2023

    I want to say that I found your post because I was curious how Christian parents responded to such a beloved children’s entertainer coming out as gay. Your advice is really inspiring and is such an incredible example of making choices informed by God’s love and Christ’s compassion. And recognizing that if you have issues with homosexuality that outweigh issues with other sexuality concerns you are possibly experiencing homophobia and bigotry. You said that much more lovingly though and I hope people who walk in the Christian path really heard you.

    • Amber Carroll
      5:07 PM, 2 August 2023

      Thank you so much, Mia. I really appreciate your encouragement.

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