In 6th grade, I realized I was gay, and I swore I would never let anyone know who I really was.
Jessica Chilous is a follower of Jesus, wife, and joyful mother of five in Nashville, TN. She is a member of a local missional community committed to loving gay people in her city, and she recently attended Revoice 2019. Check out her reflections as a straight married Christian woman.
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“I think maybe we should wait a while before you start leading in our Sunday School.” Even though I had braced for these words, I couldn’t stop the sinking feeling in my stomach and the prick of tears in my eyes. “I have a few questions for you,” continued Helen (name changed), the young adults minister at my church. Why? Because I am bisexual.
Then it hit me. That feeling I’ve felt far too often over the past twenty-seven years. Shame. I noticed an attractive player on one of the teams, and then a painful void opened up in my gut.
EQUIP has designed and tested a program, called Coming Out & Gay Pride: A Compassionate Christian Response, that invites Christians to think deeply and have healthy conversation about these topics. Better yet, this year your church can host Coming Out & Gay Pride at so that your members can learn how to respond compassionately to gay pride and coming out.